Asserting disagreement in respectful ways.
To learn different ways of respectfully communicating when a person disagrees with a statement someone else makes.
- Sit in a circle, and together, brainstorm a series of statements that could be true or creative/imaginary such as, “An island in the Pacific Ocean is home to a green hippo,” or “My Uncle was the President.” Write them on the board or paper.
- Take turns so each person gets to be speaker. The speaker says one of the statements (as if it’s true, even if it’s imaginary).
- Others around the circle raise their hands, and the speaker will call on one at a time to practice respectful disagreement. The person called up will assert their own different view in a way that shows respect for the speaker and also asserts a differing point of view.
Rotate until all have had a chance to participate.
- How did you feel when you disagreed with the speaker?
- How did you feel when someone disagreed with you?
- Most of us have encountered criticism or disagreements that were disrespectful. What made this experience different?
- Do you tend to assert your disagreement or not? If so, when do you choose to assert yourself?
- Did you learn any new ways to communicate disagreement for the future? What were they?
Jennifer Miller; Confident Parents, Confident Kids